I just came across an article asking the question "Why is Fish Sex So Hot Right Now?"-- which definitely gets points for an effectively click-bait-y title. The author posits the question while comparing a new book by Melissa Broder called“The Pisces,” and the Guillermo Del Toro film "The Shape of Water," both stories involving love-affairs between women and mer-men. The hypothesis surrounding the question asked in the title of the article in one that makes a lot of sense: Are women just so sick of men that they're going to the oceans to find love?
It's hard to look at the news without empathizing with women. We are inundated with stories of men who don't know how to act, or at worst are absolute animals. In the #MeToo era, it's not too difficult to see why there would be an appeal in stories that tell of some worlds where women have options. In a very similar way, the "Black Panther" film showed us a world where Black people lived without the intrusion of colonialism. In fact, I'd have to say that the ONLY issue that I have with the premise of both of these stories is the implied bestiality. It's kinda no different than if a man fell in love with a cat woman-- it's just kinda...weird to me.
Of course, it's a fantasy. Of course, these are all metaphors and symbols that represent the kind of love that women crave; in a world that is constantly objectifying, demeaning, belittling and abusing them...there comes a creature that has more to offer than any man could EVER. I think that's wonderful!
In the podcast, I talked about how the movie "The Shape of Water" didn't really dazzle and amaze me as much as it did others. But I did say that the last bit of narration in the film, the recitation of the poem about love...THAT is the moment that worked for me:
Unable to perceive the shape of You,
I find You all around me.
Your presence fills my eyes with Your love,
It humbles my heart,
For You are everywhere.
That's beautiful; surrounded by love as if submerged in it (like water). That's a love that we ALL want, and it's a love that is not too demanding. All that it asks is that you see each other, embrace who you are, and allow those feelings to envelop you. It's the thing that we all want...but it's the thing that is the most difficult to find.
By land, or by sea, love awaits.